I don't believe in having regrets. Ever! By regrets I mean wishing that you had taken a past decision differently. When you do so, you insult your own intelligence. You took a decision in the past using all the information, intuition and intelligence at your disposal, if you wish now that you could have chosen differently, how do you know that you are taking your current decisions correctly and will not regret them in the future?
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I would be interested in knowing what made you write about it.
ReplyDeleteNo definitive event really. Just a random sharing of my philosophy in life.
ReplyDeleteEven random thoughts are triggered by events. I refuse to belive that there is no event behind this philosophy of yours.
ReplyDeletehmm... i think wat u have to say is partly rite.
ReplyDeletei feel that the fact that we have learnt to ACCEPT and MOVE ON accepting all the consequences of our actions and claming full responsibity ..............ends up giving us the feeling of not havig regret's.
Whe you alking about insult... !!!
ReplyDeleteIs questioning our Wrong's in the past....( which again taught us something or the other n help us improve n evole) as INSULT's a rite way to look at it ?
Well having the intellect n information and doing the wrongs more an insult ?
by the way i dont think the q is about INSULT...
all i can say is THAT WE HAVE EVOLVED IN A MANNER ........THAT EVERY SINGLE DAY THAT WE LEAVE BEHIND IS PAST AND WE DONT THINK OR CARE ABOUT IT...!!! and so we feel no regrets :D
@Girish: If a thought was triggered by an event it wouldn't be random. The philosophy is definitely a derivation of the sum total of my experiences however the impetus to write about it was purely random.
ReplyDelete@Abhishek: I kind of agree with you when you explain why the feeling of not having regrets is there. Still, when I say that we insult our intelligence. I am not stopping you from learning from your mistake, I am stopping you from regretting making that mistake. You can gain from it but don't lose your peace over it :)
@Vishal
ReplyDeleteWhat about making a decision that you KNOW you will regret later for??
I dont agree its insulting your intelligence if you qustion your decisions at all. Only some modifications here and there can be made after you feel a decision you have taken is not working (as it was supposed to be)to meke it go full swirl...
Whats the harm??
I can see where the lady is coming from.
ReplyDeleteAlas the gentleman has nothing more to add!
;)
@Charu: I wish you would look at my point more minutely. Taking a decision, observing the effect and then taking another decision to get a more desired result is one thing. Regretting taking the first decision is another thing. Even though the first decision did not give you the desired result you took it using the best available information hence you have no cause to regret it. If you do then you insult your intelligence which you used to analyze all the information and take the decision. On the contrary you should be pleased about taking the first decision as it enabled you to get more information to take a better informed decision.
ReplyDeleteLook at it this way. If after 20 years of taking a decision, you were given the chance to take the same decision again but having the same information you had twenty years earlier and nothing more then you will take the same decision you had taken then. If you are able to deconstruct your life into such individual decisions you will never have cause for regret.
In reply to your first question, every human, being the selfish being we are, can never take a decision knowing they will regret it. Every decision we take is the one we think will benefit us the most. I will be glad if anyone can prove it to the contrary.
@Girish: The gentleman is you or me?
You ofcourse! The question was for you, not me and more over I am too human to behave like a gentelman!
ReplyDeleteBTW interesting reply.
n that case you did not give the gentleman enough time to add.
ReplyDeleteTruce guyssss
ReplyDeleteHave you never encountered a situation when you know that you are going to regret it?
ReplyDeleteI mean taking a decision in the short-term context when you know in the long-term you would regret it..if you can say that confidently, u'd need to look more closely :0)
Hemant, I don't believe I have encountered such a situation. What you are saying is that I am in a situation which is inevitable and I have to take a decision choosing between a short term gain or a long term gain. At the time of taking the decision if I deem the short term gain to be more important I will take the decision favouring it. So I obviously took a decision which gave me the maximum return possible hence I wouldn't have any reason to regret it, since I have derived the maximum benefit possible out of it.
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